The Dreaded Holiday Season
The summer holiday season is a time that many visit their families and have holidays together. Of course it’s also the time when the kids are home all day. Unfortunately, not all family members get along with each other all of the time. That can make holidays a stressful time for those who dread having to see someone they don’t like. If you have a family member that you don’t particularly like or get along with, you can be the bigger person by following some simple tips to avoid family fights.
Avoiding a fight at a family gathering often means learning not to take it personally if someone hurts your feelings. For example, a relative might criticize you or something you did. Also, you might be polite to a family member who doesn’t act very polite or friendly back to you. In any event, don’t take it personally. Just tell yourself that the relative probably has a lot of personal problems that have nothing to do with you. Therefore, you don’t have to let a cranky relative’s bad attitude ruin your holiday celebration.
Minor Arguments can escalate
Many major family arguments begin as simple disagreements. However, you don’t have to let a little disagreement escalate into a huge fight. If you find yourself getting into a heated conversation with a relative during the holidays, just ask to change the subject or excuse yourself from the conversation. You can also try telling family members that you will just have to agree to disagree because you don’t want to fight with them.
Politics is another hot-button topic that can lead to family fights during the holiday season (especially if family members are on opposite sides of the political aisle). For example, if you are a staunch Bernie Sanders supporter and a relative shows up at a holiday event wearing a ‘Make America Great Again’ hat, the two of you should avoid discussing politics.
Most people have (at least a few) bad memories from their life. Therefore, you can avoid some family fights by not bringing up unpleasant memories during the holidays. Even if you think the memory is funny, your relative(s) might not.
Finally, don’t let the stress of the holiday season put you in a bad mood when you go to visit relatives. Often, if you are already in a lousy mood, seeing someone you don’t like can make you feel even worse. Therefore, it’s important that you don’t go to family gatherings with a bad attitude. Find ways to cheer yourself up around the holidays so that you can enjoy spending time with your family (without fighting with them).
In short, don’t let bad feelings with relatives ruin your family gatherings. Don’t take it personally if you see a relative over the holidays who acts hateful. You are not likely the reason that they are in a bad mood. You should also avoid discussing controversial subjects – like politics – and bringing up bad memories with relatives. Don’t let stress in your life and family fights keep you from enjoying time with your family during the holiday season.
One of the biggest causes of family fights is boredom, so why not try to find more activities to keep your little kids and big kids occupied. Check out some of our listings here: